Welcome to Tracking Yes!
Please enjoy this guide to “5 Skills for Unshakeable Confidence”.
If you practice these steps whenever you feel off balance, they’ll quickly restore you to a grounded sense of calm and an emodied connection with your natural curiosity, wisdom and power.
And that’s when the magic happens…
1) Full permission
Think of a situation where you feel “I don’t like this” or “I don’t want to feel this way”. It can be a big issue or a minor irritation.
notice the drive to push it away, fix it or change it
make a distinction between what’s happening - the neutral facts, and
your RESISTANCE to what’s happening - the energetic chargewhat’s your opinion about what’s happening?
write it down: “This is… isn’t… should… shouldn’t…”
Let it rip. The important thing is to honour exactly what is happening in your experience.
This is the first yes—everything gets to be here.
You’re increasing your window of tolerance for the emotions and sensations that come with it, and deeping awareness about the stories that are rising up in response.
2) Unconditional friendliness
See if you can meet what’s here with an open, non-judgmental heart.
Just for a moment, can you drop your opinion?
Imagine there’s a sweet spot where there’s nothing to change, nothing to fix, no ‘problem’ to solve.
This is a practice of engaged allowing. You’re noticing what’s arising while not following the compulsion to DO something about it.
3) Love and Curiosity
Love isn’t convincing yourself you’re fine with what’s happening—that’s a spiritual bypass.
Love is being brave enough to bring your full attention to how you’re responding. It’s a willingness to become intimate with your experience.
When love is partnered with curiosity, you want to know more of your experience rather than trying to get rid of it.
Instead of focusing on what you don’t like—check in:
what’s going on with me that has me not like it?
how invested am I in being “right” about things?
if I decide that nothing is a problem, what shifts in my being?
Tricky, this one. It feels dangerous to relax when we’re primed for fight or flight.
4) Grounded Wisdom
The specific experience you’re having is a part of your world, but not the whole of it.
Look for the ways you are supported, empowered, and have what you need to meet exactly this thing.
The wisdom you have access to—from others and from your own direct experience
Your talents, strengths and skills
Your creativity and resourcefulness
Your community—those who love you and care about your well-being
A belief that life/the universe is for you. (If you don’t think so—consider trying it on for a week or two and see if it gives you a bit more breathing room.)
Expand the space by tapping in to gratitude. What are you appreciative of and thankful for in this moment—not in spite of, but along with—the challenge you’re facing?
Track the through-line to magic.
What’s here that’s working? Find one thing—it’s an ally.
Finally, use your wisdom to identify your disempowered beliefs around this experience, and be willing to challenge them. This requires courage. Our limiting beliefs are created as a protection strategy, but ultimately they keep us stuck in a story of struggle and powerlessness.
5) Light-Hearted Playfulness
Play is one of your most valuable assets. You are a naturally creative being, and the spirit of play connects you to your creative nature.
Play takes you out of past/future thinking and brings you into the present moment.
When we’re resisting, judging or complaining, we’re focused on what we want to be different, rather than being in an engaged, open relationship with what’s here now.
You can feel hooked, AND ask yourself empowered questions:
What do I want to make of this?
What’s trying to get my attention?
What’s the opportunity here for connection with myself, with life, with others?
What do I notice if I don’t actually need things to be different right now?
When you’re willing to challenge the belief that you are powerless in the face of circumstances, you start creating your experience from the inside out. You’re choosing to see life as an ally. Once this happens you’re in the game and on the adventure.
Adventure has inherent risks and challenges—but you get to decide how to meet them.
You can align with fear and worry that things might not work out—or you can orient to your life as a fascinating opportunity to navigate your own remarkable journey.
You can trust yourself to figure this out. Why?
Because you have figured out every single thing that has ever happened to for you up to now. You have always been co-creating with all that has come your way.
Through conscious attention to your experience and how you’re showing up for it, you come to trust that you’re always in a loving, co-creative partnership with the intelligence of life.
Now friend, you’re Tracking Yes—you’re leaning into the art and practice of staying connected to creativity and possibility, whatever life sends your way.
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